Are you Trying to be a Super-Parent? Trying to handle absolutely everything is super hard! By: Law Offices of Steven B. Chroman P.C. Santa Clarita Divorce

Super ParentWe know this can be quite a balancing act, and one that you may be experiencing right now. Here are some tips for those going through a divorce or separation to help you stop and think before you attempt being (although we know you already are) a super-parent.

Many of my clients report feeling like a horrible mess of guilt and fear attached to their decision about parting, and one of the responses that can occur is what we in our office refer to as, unrealistic parenting. Unrealistic parenting is when you think to yourself, “Alright then, I’ll just do it all. I’ll take it all on and I’ll be everything to everyone, especially my children.”

We all understand this approach because it may seem like it’s one way to undo and make up for the pain and distress you may feel you have caused your kids. This unrealistic parenting then can trigger the hero role of the super-parent. Although it’s true you are capable of amazing feats, at the end of the day… you can only do so much alone and that is to be human. So rather than trying to be a super-parent, be a healthy parent.

What is a healthy parent?

As a healthy parent you are emotionally stable and balanced. You are able to be present and engage with your child on a daily basis. You are able to follow through with your commitments, and spend quality time with your children.

As a healthy parent, you set appropriate boundaries so your children can have a sense of direction, and feel that you are their anchor and their guide through life. Being a healthy parent takes the pressure off you to be a super-parent, and your role of being a healthy parent will help you and your children endure today and forever. It’s a tough job, but somebody has to do it. Just know that you don’t have to do it alone to have your kids see you as their own personal super hero!

If you feel you need someone to speak to about being a healthy-parent rather than a super parent, call the Law Offices of Steven B. Chroman, P.C. today for a divorce coaching session. We can guide you through the process and help you develop a strategy for dealing with your ex, soon to be ex and your children’s best interest.

Call 661-255-1800 for your free initial consultation today!

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