Posts Tagged ‘DivorcedParents’


SCHOOLS OUT FOR SUMMER

Tuesday, December 6th, 2016

“SCHOOLS OUT FOR SUMMER”

The Divorce Anthem

By Steven B. Chroman, Attorney at Law

That used to be the anthem we blasted on our radios as loud as can be…now the tune can equate fear. I think the most difficult part of summer break is unilateral for all parents; keeping your children occupied. Twice as hard when you have to split time with an EX. Of course it is important for parents to spend as much quality time with their children as they can, but add Divorce into the mix and you have yourself a real fun uphill battle.

If you are in a high conflict situation with your co-parent it may not be the best idea for the kids to be switching back and forth between co-parents very often during the summer months. When dealing with divorce and summer break you must always have the benefit and welfare of your children as your number one priority. If your current situation with the co-parent is unsuitable for your children to be around consider having them spend the summer with relatives or at a summer camp. It is also always a good idea to discuss with your kids about summer plans prior to their summer break and to come up with options and hear their opinions.

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The Divorced or Separated Back to School Guidebook

Tuesday, December 6th, 2016

The Divorced or Separated Back to School Guidebook

By Steven B. Chroman, Attorney at Law

Summer went by faster than expected yet again and school is back in session. That means a change of schedule, a change of weather and — when you’re divorced — a change in how you need to interact with your ex.

After all, just because you are no longer husband and wife (or boyfriend and girlfriend), you are still mom and dad. With school starting, this means you both need to be on the same page with how you’re going to manage transitions and support your child’s scholastic needs.

This is no easy task. It requires a mix of little details and big picture thinking. In some cases, it requires re-imagining trusted traditions (where will the “first day” photos be taken?) or re-arranging work schedules. In all cases, it requires that you and your ex bring your best selves to your relationship with your kids and each other.

Kids who are focused on succeeding in school, typically succeed in life. Do whatever you can to help them focus. Eliminate relationship drama and give them the security of knowing both parents are engaged.

Kids don’t care if it’s “your week” or not. Showing up for school events sends a strong message, one that will be remembered for a lifetime.

Often, a child’s emotional struggles manifest in school work. If your child is struggling academically and your efforts are failing to yield results, consider seeking professional help. Redirection is easier months into their struggle instead of years into their struggle.

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Law Office of Steven B. Chroman P.C. Santa Clarita Divorce Article: Spooky Times

Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

Spooky Times

By Steven B. Chroman, Attorney at Law

Halloween, when you’re separated or going through a divorce with children can be a spooky time if not approached with your children in mind. Halloween is one of those tricky holidays where both parents want to have that ‘fun and scary experience.’ So what should you do so that everyone is able to have a good time, despite the fact that you’re no longer living in the same house together as a family? While Halloween isn’t nearly as tough on divorced families as other holidays, it is difficult in that it is only for one night.  This year Halloween is on a school night so the opportunities to expand into the weekend present greater challenges.  It’s only one night of walking the streets with your children saying the famed ‘Trick or Treat’ whereas Thanksgiving, Hanukah or Christmas can be spread out over two days, or even a week.

Halloween is one of those holidays that are often forgotten when laying out a parenting plan. Parents remember Christmas, Hanukah, and Thanksgiving but forget about Halloween, and that can become a source of contention since most kids report that Halloween is one of their favorite days of the year.

Some families split the day, others alternate years, while still others try to come together for the sake of the children. The good news is this is a relatively stress free holiday.

TIPS FOR SEPARATED OR DIVORCED FAMILIES ON HALLOWEEN:

1. Don’t put the kids in the middle. Don’t ask, ‘Do you want to spend Halloween at my house of your mom’s (or dad’s)?  That approach tests your child’s allegiance.

2. Share your children. If possible, see if you can share the time so that all participate. Agree to share one neighborhood, each taking the children half the time.

3. Treat the other parent well. Don’t use this occasion to reminisce about the pass or say negative things about your former spouse.

4. Take the children to a weekend trick or treat event. If all else fails, research other Halloween events are going on, such as haunted houses, neighborhood markets and stores that are having Halloween events, or have a costume party for your children and their friends on a different night. The alternatives are endless with a little creativity if you and the other parent are unable to reach an amicable resolution.

Try to adhere to the rule of ‘Put your children first’.  Remember this is their fun day.   Don’t loose perspective and hold tight to a visitation schedule that may force them to spend their time away from their friends simply because it’s your designated time with your child. In truth, it’s not your time or your ex’s time…it’s your child(ren)’s time.

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Divorced Moms Article: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Single Moms

Thursday, October 2nd, 2014

7 Habits of Highly Effective Single Moms

By: Terry Gaspard with Divorced Moms

There is definitely an art and a science to successful single parenting. Since I was raised by a single parent and raised two children solo for a few years, it’s worth mentioning that there is a silver lining to being a single mom. Fortunately, many moms gain self-confidence in their ability to handle challenges and their children become more determined and independent.

However, making the transition from married to single life won’t be easy for you or your children. It takes time to adjust to financial changes, expanded household and child care responsibilities and to being alone. It’s essential that you develop daily habits and routines to smooth the way for you and your children.

The key to successful single parenting is to reflect daily upon the importance of preparing for your new life and accepting that change is necessary. It will take time for you and your children to adjust to your new lifestyle but developing a positive mindset will help ease the transition.

Since I’ve always found paradigms and principles useful to setting goals, I will borrow habits from Stephen R. Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and adapt them for single moms. In several cases, I borrowed his heading and in others, developed my own.

7 Habits of Effective Single Moms:

  1. Be proactive: Get support for yourself and your children. This includes counseling, social outlets and child care. Avoid playing the role of victim and remind yourself that things will get better over time.
  2. Create a positive vision: Take control of your life and develop a clear picture of where you are heading. Decide what your values are for raising your children and start with setting three goals that are meaningful to you. Keep in mind that it can take up to a month to see any change.
  3. Prioritize: Don’t sweat the small stuff and keep the focus on spending time with your kids and positive interactions. For instance, in our house we had pizza on Tuesday nights which gave us one week night to spend more time together when I wasn’t so focused on cooking and cleaning up. (more…)

The Stir Article: 17 Things Only a Divorced Mom Knows

Tuesday, September 16th, 2014

17 Things Only a Divorced Mom Knows

By: Jodi Meltzer for on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir.

After the divorce tear gas stops stinging and the OMG-I-should-have-been-a-lawyer bills are paid, there’s a period of awakening, of embracing your new reality as a divorced mom.

At times, it’s intoxicating. The freedom, the firsts, the time you have to devote to your precious child. Other days are wracked with guilt, with “what if”s, with longing for your baby. It’s a bumpy road only those who have gone through it can possibly understand. Here are 17 things only a divorced mom knows.

  1. How infuriating it is to deal with “Disneyland Dad.” Everything is more fun at dad’s. It’s no problem when your kid hangs from his ceiling fan while eating candy for breakfast.
  2. The loneliness of your kid making mom-free memories, taking mom-free trips, and enjoying mom-free time in a home where you’re most likely not welcome.
  3. Having to censor everything you say because your kid has become a recording device that plays back your conversations to his dad.
  4. Wondering which of your friends will be on Team Mom and which will be on Team Dad. They always choose sides — and this can mess things up for all of your kids.
  5. The challenge of co-parenting. If your ex is spiteful, he may do things just to piss you off (like feeding your vegetarian a double cheeseburger). And there’s nothing you can do about it. Also, see #1.
  6. Choking back tears on the phone knowing your baby wants a goodnight kiss you can’t deliver. Or worrying that he’ll wake up after a nightmare and you won’t be there to comfort him.
  7. Watching your siblings form teams with their kids for the family’s annual Thanksgiving Day lawn football game, but having no ‘team’ in attendance this year. Why do we even play football on Thanksgiving? Football is stupid. So is Thanksgiving. Decide never to celebrate again in solidarity with the Native Americans. Until next year, when your kid will be with you.
  8. The sting when your child says, “I want daddy!” Ouch. It’s so much worse than when you were married.
  9. Trying to act like a grown-up when you talk about your ex so you don’t “tarnish” your kids’ image of him or make them feel like they have to take sides. Even though you know they’d totally pick you. Right?
  10. Pretending you don’t notice your child watching the happy family of four eating dinner at a restaurant. Shiny, happy people holding hands, please go away.
  11. The thrill of post-divorce sex — no worrying about locking the door because your kid definitely won’t interrupt. It’s dad’s night!
  12. Wondering if and when you should introduce your child to your new man. OMG. Is he good enough to be a stepdad? Will my kid like him? Do I like him?
  13. Feeling like a third wheel on playdates that spill into the evenings when that lovely couple invites you to stay for dinner. Nice … but awkward.
  14. Agonizing over whether you’ll be “replaced” when daddy gets a girlfriend. Conducting a seance or doing a rain dance to ward this off.
  15. Feeling guilty about everything. From fearing your kid will blame you for breaking up the family to fearing your kid’s bad grades, allergies, [insert anything here] are all because of the divorce. Divorced mommy guilt is like regular mommy guilt… on steroids.
  16. The incredible exhaustion of being up all night with a sick kid and having to work the next day. There’s no more sharing shifts with the hubby. It’s all on you, baby.
  17. Cuddling with your child in your own home that’s finally free of toxic energy. Just the two of you.

What would you add to the list?


In The Stir’s article “17 Things Only a Divorced Mom KnowsMs. Meltzer states a few feelings that most all divorce moms understand. It’s difficult to go through divorce and feel the pull of what have I done (or what has he done) to this family.  The emotion of wanting to have your children with you all the time and posing the question of whether you could stay in a unbearable situation just so you can be there to keep them safe all the time instead of half the time.  
 
There are so many different thoughts that come into consideration when you are struggling with the back and forth of divorce or separation. Sometimes you feel cornered with no way out and that’s why we are here to help.  If you or someone you know is in a circumstance that is intimidating or even hostile, please call our office for assistant.
 
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The Long Distance Parent. By: Law Office of Steven B. Chroman P.C. Santa Clarita Divorce

Monday, September 15th, 2014

The Long Distance Parent

By Steven B. Chroman, Attorney at Law

It’s never easy being a parent. We constantly struggle, wondering if we’re doing the best we can for our kids. It’s so much pressure knowing that you only get a short window of time to prepare them to become responsible, healthy, and emotionally balanced adults. For some divorced parents, there is an extra challenge of being geographically distant from their children. It’s not the ideal situation, but it doesn’t’t mean that as a parent you should have no influence in the lives of your children. In fact, with some effort and planning, it’s possible to have a close relationship with your child even from many miles away.

Keep the lines of communication open with the other parent: One of the most important ways to ensure you have a strong connection to your kids is to do everything possible to keep the lines of communication open with the parent who has primary custody. This is not always easy, but it’s one of the best ways to keep abreast of what’s happening in your child’s life.

Technology is your friend! Today more than ever, people are able to stay connected from a distance. There are so many ways to communicate: texting, email, instant messaging, and Skype, to name a few.

Send a care package: Children absolutely love to get mail! Consider sending small care packages every so often. They need not be expensive items. Small items like Legos, flavored lip gloss, action figures, and art supplies are easy to mail and inexpensive.

Make the most of your time: When those special days finally arrive and you’re enjoying a visit together, make the most of that time. Don’t pressure them with questions or comments about the other parent. Keep the focus on your child and enjoy every precious moment as much as possible. That being said, don’t let discipline and structure go out the window. Kids need routine, so keep a regular bedtime schedule and keep rules in place.

Record your memories: Don’t forget to take lots of pictures and even video if you can. Later on, you can send them a small album of your time together.

So, if you are a parent who is living far away from your child, don’t despair. If you communicate with them on a consistent basis and keep your own expectations realistic, you still have the ability to be an important and meaningful part of your child’s life.

For more information, and a complimentary consultation call the LAW OFFICE OF STEVEN B. CHROMAN P.C. today at 661-255-1800.

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Huffington Post Article: 11 Things All Divorced Parents Need To Hear

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

11 Things All Divorced Parents Need To Hear

By: Brittany Wong with Huffington Post

Your divorce may have been a drawn-out, dramatic mess but if you want your kids to come out unscathed, your co-parenting relationship with your ex needs to be anything but.

So how do you make nice with your ex when it’s the last thing you want to do? Below, HuffPost Divorce readers share the one word of advice they’d give fellow divorcees struggling to forge a working parenting relationship with their ex.

1. “Co-parent. Learn to look at your ex as a business partner. And if you feel the need to vent about him or her, vent to your friends and not to your kids. The kids’ feelings always have to come first.”

2. “Keep as many rules consistent between the two households as possible. This way, the kids won’t be able to play both sides. What’s not allowed at mom’s house isn’t allowed at dad’s, either.”

3. “Find a way to overcome the anger you feel toward your ex. Face him or her as a father or mother and give them the opportunity to maintain and improve your bond as co-parents.”

4. “Remember: Your kids are not pawns and divorce is not a game to win.”

5. “The way you manage conflicts will determine how your children emerge from the divorce. You may no longer be married, but your roles as co-parents will last for the rest of your lives.”

6. “It’s so easy to get lost in your own wants and needs and go to battle with your ex, but taking the high road makes for a happier life for everyone involved.”

7. “Be cautious if you’re tempted to be judgmental; that magnifying glass works both ways. Unless your child is in danger, you have to give the benefit of the doubt that your child’s other parent is doing the best they can do, the same way you are.”

8.“Quit the manipulation. Stop badmouthing the other parent to the kids. You divorced your spouse, not the kids, so don’t take your anger out on them.”

9. “Let go of what happens in the other parent’s house, unless it’s truly egregious.”

10. “Communication is key. You have to keep the lines of communication open between you and your ex. Never let the resentment you feel toward him or her seep into your conversations — that’s so unproductive.”

11. “Kids need both parents and they need them to get along. Do you want your kids to be a bitter, unforgiving people? Because that’s what you’re modeling for them if you can’t put your past hurts behind you. Instead, opt to co-parent in a civil way so you can teach the kids how to create healthy relationships in adversity. It’s one of the best lessons you can give them.”


In Huffington Post’s article “11 Things All Divorced Parents Need To Hear” lists some sound points to remember when going through a divorce with children. Sometimes you work really hard co-parenting with your ex and it seems as though they feed off the drama and you may feel like you are at your wits end.
 
If you feel like the cards are stacking against you and you cannot seem to communicate with your ex regarding anything without it becoming a long drama filled argument, then call our office. We can assist you in putting together the pieces of your damaged relationship and find common ground to work with your co-parent.
 
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Huffington Post Article: 10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids

Wednesday, May 7th, 2014

10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids

By: Sophie Rosen for DivorcedMoms.com

Divorce is undeniably a tumultuous experience for any couple, regardless of how amicable the dissolution may be. It is very easy to get caught up in our own roller coaster of emotions, as well as with the challenges of navigating the divorce process itself. It is important to remember there are innocent bystanders sitting on the sidelines, watching and listening. Regardless of age, careful attention must be paid to the children of divorce, minimizing the fallout as they interpret it. Here are a few words of advice to offer children that may help guide them through this difficult period and ease their adjustment.

1. It is not your fault. Whether a child is three or 30, it is a natural response to look for reasons why parents divorce. As children search for answers, one place they may look is inward. How children perceive a situation is altogether unpredictable, and may be based on something as seemingly insignificant as a passing glance or an off-the-cuff comment. During my separation, my then six year-old, overhearing an argument between my ex husband and myself about when things first became bad in our marriage, associated that same time with his own birth. Of course, our issues had nothing to do with him, and I still remind him of that often.

2. There is no wrong way to feel. When adults go through a divorce, emotions run the gamut. The same holds true for children. Children of all ages need to know that on some days they may feel sad, angry, hurt, or even happy about the change in their family’s situation. All of these feelings are natural, and may fluctuate throughout the day and over time.

3. There is outside support if you need or want it. As a caveat to the above, if children’s perceptions about divorce become irrational to the point of being self-destructive, it is advisable to seek help from a qualified mental health professional. Even if a child’s response is not threatening, turning to an outside party such as a therapist, support group, clergyman, trusted relative, or family friend for added support can be beneficial. Help is out there. It is only a matter of asking for it.

4. Both of your parents love you. It is extremely important to reassure children that divorce is a relational matter between two parents, and not between parents and their children. Yes, living arrangements will likely change, but the love between a parent and a child is not affected by geography.

5. Parents show love in different ways. Children often question how much each of their parents love them in the wake of a divorce. In doing so, they tend to quantify, measuring the actions of one parent against those of the other. A wide range of situations may dictate that one parent spends more time with children than the other parent, spends more money, or engages in more enjoyable activities together. Reminding children that none of these scenarios indicate how much love a parent has for a child, and may be merely logistical and unavoidable consequences of divorce, is critical.

6. Your parents’ divorce does not define you. Children need to remember that just because their parents are divorcing, they are still the same person they were before. Hopes, dreams, and goals remain the same, and their parents’ divorce is no reflection on them.

7. Your relationship with each of your parents is independent of the other. It is important for children to maintain a separate and private relationship with each parent. As tempting as it may be to play the game of he said, she said with your children, kids must feel safe and secure in their relationships with each parent in order to have consistently healthy interactions on both sides. I stopped prying long ago. If my children have something to discuss with me, they will.

8. It is not your responsibility to fix your parents’ marriage. The factors leading up to a couple’s divorce likely existed for a long time before coming to a head. Marriage is a private affair between two individuals, individuals who were once closest in the world to one another. Children are not privy, nor should they be, to what goes on between a husband and wife.

9. Marriage can be wonderful. For many years, I loved being married. Children should understand that just because their parents’ marriage may not have worked out in the end, it doesn’t mean all marriages fail. Marriage is a sacred union between two people who love and respect one another, and they will know the time, if and when, it will be right for them. Of course, there are no guarantees for a successful marriage. But no two situations are ever the same, and history does not have to repeat itself.

10. Life goes on. Children will survive divorce, as will their parents. Change is difficult, but also inevitable. Divorce can ultimately be a positive experience for everyone involved, affording a second chance at a new and better life. As parents, we would never hope for or accept anything less.


Huffington Post’s article “10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids” reminds us that reassuring our children during a divorce is always important. They don’t understand the reasoning behind their parent’s divorce and often times we don’t either, thus it is essential to let our kids know that it has nothing to do with them and that both parents love them and will guide them through it.
 
If you are having a difficult time co-parenting and need assistant in finding an amicable solution between yourself and your ex, please contact our office. We can facilitate a resolution and therefore your children may have a stable environment with two active co-parents.
 
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Are We There Yet? Making Summer Plans When You Are Divorced or Soon To Be. By: Law Office of Steven B. Chroman P.C. Santa Clarita Divorce

Monday, April 28th, 2014

With summer vacation right around the corner, thoughts on how to keep kids busy, entertained, structured, happy, and distracted from the throes of your divorce are probably beginning.

Kids who are home from school have a lot of available time that needs to be scheduled. Some will benefit from going away to camp or to their grandparents, while others will benefit from more one-on-one time with parents because they may find the isolation from divorce as alienating. A good place to start is by asking your older kids (12 and up) how they want to spend their summer before any final decisions are made.

If your divorce is final, you are required to abide by your final divorce decree regarding summer visitation. If you do not yet have a final divorce decree, I highly recommend that you begin discussing with your ex-spouse a summer schedule for the children.

There are several reasons for coming to a summer visitation arrangement sooner rather than later:

(1)  You can make travel plans, if necessary;

(2)  You can make arrangements for taking time off work or arrange child care/camp during the time you have the children; and

(3)  You can ensure that both parents will have some extended free time with the children over the summer.

There is no shortage of tensions that can easily explode if unaddressed. In order to facilitate a peaceful summer, divorced parents will need to cooperate with each other.

-Plan a budget for your child(ren’s) summer activities.

-Plan for your child’s summer job- pick up, drop off and/or car situation.

-Plan for how much time you will be with your child(ren).

You and your ex-spouse (or soon to be) or the court may agree to modify child support payments in different amounts during vacation periods when the child is with the noncustodial parent more than during the regular school year or use that money towards activities, camp, travel, etc.

Plan for your child’s camp or summer school:

If you are paying for child support, will you continue to pay the same amount of child support or can you agree to pay for other children expenses in lieu of child support?

Make arrangements regarding who will drop off and pick up your child(ren).

Plan for your child(ren) staying at home in the summer:

Will your child-related costs increase? For example, will you have greater expenses for babysitting, food, entertainment, driving, etc? How will these increased costs be shared, if at all, with your ex-spouse?


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Huffington Post Article: 6 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce

Wednesday, March 26th, 2014

6 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce
By: Cathy Meyer for DivorcedMoms.com

If you are married, having problems and sticking your head in the sand, where is your marriage headed? Divorce court! I recently worked with a couple who were in year 21 of their marriage. According to both there had been trouble from “day one.”

Twenty-one year’s worth of problems that should have been dealt with starting at “day one.” Not dealing with their problems as the problems came up led to years of built-up resentment for both. Hurt feelings, anger and emotional detachment from each other meant it would take a lot of effort to get the marriage back on track.

If you love your spouse and are committed to your marriage, do not ignore the follow six signs of impending divorce:

1. You fantasize about a life without your spouse.
I have a friend who recently divorced. For years before the marriage fell apart completely she spent a lot of time daydreaming about how much better life would be without her husband. This isn’t unusual, but if it is something you do often and with great abandon, it is time to seek help from a marital therapist.

Talk with your spouse about whatever it is that is causing you to long for the single life. It won’t be a pleasant conversation, but your spouse should be given a heads up and your marriage (especially if you have children) deserves the second chance it might get through counseling.

2. The bad outweighs the good.
Problems in a marriage feed on inactivity. If you have problems and don’t seek solutions, the bad will soon outweigh the good. Marriages can become breeding grounds or a vicious cycle of one problem after another. Do you and your spouse a favor seek help and advice from a trained professional before the scales tip too far and you find yourself with unsolvable problems.

3. You don’t share your thoughts and feelings.
Yes, some things are sacred — you don’t need to share every thought or feeling — but you aren’t doing your marriage a favor if you don’t share marital unhappiness with your spouse. Unless you feel there is a threat of abuse (physical or verbal retaliation), communication is an important way to relieve stress and build a healthier bond with your spouse. And problems can’t be worked through unless you are both aware of the problem.

4. Engaging in negative defense mechanisms.
Does your spouse become overly defensive when you express a concern? Do you dismiss your spouse’s needs? Does your spouse criticize your beliefs, or engage in stonewalling tactics? If so, you are at high risk of divorce. If either of you engage in negative defense mechanisms when attempting to solve a problem, you are building more problems and solving nothing. This can be the kiss of death for your marriage.

5. You feel alone in solving marital problems.
My ex engaged in negative defense mechanisms. He avoided conflict at all cost. He was a master at walking away, refusing to communicate and dismissing my concerns over problems in the marriage. He kept his head so far up his butt he could see his tonsils!

If there were problems, I was responsible for solving those problems…with no help from him. He handed me full responsibility for our relationship on a silver platter and when I failed to solve the problems, as he saw them but failed to share with me, the marriage was over.

It takes two to make problems and two to solve problems. Hopefully you are married to someone who understands this concept.

6. One desires sex and the other doesn’t.
A marriage that lacks sexual intimacy and affection will either end up in divorce or end up being a marriage of convenience. Nothing is more damaging to a marriage or the self-esteem of a spouse than having a partner reject them sexually.

Want your marriage to die on the vine? Ignore the sexual bond with your spouse and stand back and watch it wilt.

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If you feel as though your marriage might be destined for divorce, read Huffington Post’s article “6 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce” and compare the signs.  If you fit into 3 or more of the groups listed, it may be critical that you seriously evaluate your circumstances.

There are many ways to strengthen the bond of marriage when it feels like its shattering.  Consider counseling to help mediate problems in the relationship, having assistance from a licensed professional with an outside opinion can really become an eye opener for both parties.

If you believe you have already done everything you are able to do to work through the problems in the marriage or if you believe it’s just not working with your spouse and you are contemplating divorce then please call our office.  We can answer any questions you have during your complementary consultation to help guide you in the direction that best suits your needs.

Law Offices of Steven B. Chroman, P. C. Santa Clarita Divorce
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