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Huffington Post Article: 10 Painless Ways To Change Your Messy, Messy Habits

Thursday, October 9th, 2014

10 Painless Ways To Change Your Messy, Messy Habits

By: Brie Dyas with Huffington Post

If you’re the type who considers the act of maintaining an organized (and spotless) home a waste of time, prepare to have your world rocked. “Clean people” know that you don’t have to devote hours upon hours to keep your living space from becoming a chaotic mess. You just have to adopt a few simple habits that can be painlessly incorporated into your daily routine. We caught up with Jolie Kerr, author of “My Boyfriend Barfed In My Handbag…And Other Things You Can’t Ask Martha” (Penguin, 2014) and our favorite expert on all things clean, about the foolproof ways to avoid a life lived among cat-sized dust bunnies. These tips can’t completely undo a lifetime of bad habits, but they’re a very easy start. We’ll take it room by room.

In The Bedroom

1. Make your bed on a daily basis.

Right after you get out of the bed. Not “I’m about to go to sleep, so I’m going to make my bed now.” Kerr has already debunked pretty much every excuse you’ll have about why you shouldn’t make your bed. Instead, we’ll briefly rattle off the benefits of doing so: It makes the room look neater, it keeps your comforter from your probably-not-vacuumed-recently floor and it is one less thing you’ll have to do at night. If you’re truly lazy, Kerr has given us her blessing about simplifying your bedding to just a comforter, a bottom sheet and a few pillows. You won’t have to do anything more than re-position your pillows and comforter.

2. Throw your clothes into a hamper, not on the floor.

If you’re using a laundry bag, stop. If you’re using your floor as some sort of giant hamper or closet alternative, definitely stop. A proper hamper is where dirty clothes go, immediately, until you can get them into the laundry. Obvious? Yes. Unnecessary advice for many? No.

In The Living Room

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Divorced Moms Article: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Single Moms

Thursday, October 2nd, 2014

7 Habits of Highly Effective Single Moms

By: Terry Gaspard with Divorced Moms

There is definitely an art and a science to successful single parenting. Since I was raised by a single parent and raised two children solo for a few years, it’s worth mentioning that there is a silver lining to being a single mom. Fortunately, many moms gain self-confidence in their ability to handle challenges and their children become more determined and independent.

However, making the transition from married to single life won’t be easy for you or your children. It takes time to adjust to financial changes, expanded household and child care responsibilities and to being alone. It’s essential that you develop daily habits and routines to smooth the way for you and your children.

The key to successful single parenting is to reflect daily upon the importance of preparing for your new life and accepting that change is necessary. It will take time for you and your children to adjust to your new lifestyle but developing a positive mindset will help ease the transition.

Since I’ve always found paradigms and principles useful to setting goals, I will borrow habits from Stephen R. Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and adapt them for single moms. In several cases, I borrowed his heading and in others, developed my own.

7 Habits of Effective Single Moms:

  1. Be proactive: Get support for yourself and your children. This includes counseling, social outlets and child care. Avoid playing the role of victim and remind yourself that things will get better over time.
  2. Create a positive vision: Take control of your life and develop a clear picture of where you are heading. Decide what your values are for raising your children and start with setting three goals that are meaningful to you. Keep in mind that it can take up to a month to see any change.
  3. Prioritize: Don’t sweat the small stuff and keep the focus on spending time with your kids and positive interactions. For instance, in our house we had pizza on Tuesday nights which gave us one week night to spend more time together when I wasn’t so focused on cooking and cleaning up. (more…)

Huffington Post Article: 7 Ridiculously Easy Things To Do Today To Have A Better Morning

Thursday, September 18th, 2014

7 Ridiculously Easy Things To Do Today To Have A Better Morning Tomorrow

By: Huffington Post

The most common complaint about mornings is that they’re, well, mornings. We know few people who actually enjoy waking up early — even more so in the winter, where you’re greeted with bracing cold and depressing darkness. While we can’t change that, we can offer you the ridiculously easy things you can do every day for a better morning.

Prep your breakfast and lunch before you go to sleep. That’s one less thing to think about when your brain is still catching up to the rest of you.

Have your gym bag already packed. We’re assuming that if you’re reading this, you’re an after-work gym person, not an A.M. workout type. Don’t subject yourself to the indignities of hunting for smelly running shoes when you barely know what day it is.

Pick out your outfit, keep it in grabbing range. You’ll be extra thankful about this if you wake up late. It would be so nice to have your outfit picked out the night before, and hanging up ready to put on the next day.

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Huffington Post Article: The Key To Organizing Your Life Is In These 9 Simple Steps

Thursday, September 11th, 2014

The Key To Organizing Your Life Is In These 9 Simple Steps

By: Samantha Toscano for Huffington Post

Just the thought of getting organized is enough to send the even most chaos-averse among us into a tailspin. But if you can push past the heavy sighs and long groans that often bubble up at the words “plan ahead,” you’ll find that a set of weekly organizational goals aren’t as hard to accomplish as they seem.

Behold, the baby steps that will help you do it.

The Goal: Make The Bed Daily

The Shortcut: Eliminate The Extras While throw pillows are adorable, too many can make the process of making the bed longer than it needs to be — and nobody has time for that. Another time-saving trick: Ditch the top (or flat) sheet if you don’t use it, so you have one less layer to worry about.


The Goal: Organize The Closet

The Shortcut: Buy Matching Hangers Don’t worry about making those “keep,” “donate,” and “throw out” piles just yet. Before you can tackle the contents of your closet, tackle the way it’s set up. Streamlining your storage is one of the easiest ways to start. (more…)

Huffington Post Article: 7 Ways To Stop Procrastinating

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

7 Ways To Stop Procrastinating

By: Gail Saltz, M.D. with Health.com

Choices are never easy, especially when it comes to life’s big ones. Phoebe, 39, came to see me one day, distraught after learning from a doctor that she might not be able to conceive. “How long have you been trying?” I asked. “On and off for eight months,” she told me. Even though she had always wanted a baby and had been married for seven years, she confessed that she’d had a lot of trouble committing to getting pregnant. She didn’t understand why; in fact, she’d had a similar problem deciding whether or not to marry her (very) long-term boyfriend, to the point that she almost lost him.

Of course, getting married and starting a family aren’t decisions you enter into lightly, but Phoebe had a major case of life procrastination. That’s what I call voluntarily putting off something you truly want to do, despite knowing that you’ll probably be worse off because of the delay.

People tend to think of procrastination in terms of concrete to-dos — waiting until the last minute to turn in a work report, say, or paying bills late. But it can also take hold when making life decisions both small and large, from Should I join a gym? to Do I ask for a raise? These missed opportunities can damage your career or relationship and also give you a nagging, frustrating feeling that you’re stuck in a rut of your own making.

Research shows that about 20 percent of adults are chronic procrastinators, but many more of us occasionally put off until tomorrow what we need — and even want — to do today. Yet for the most part, we don’t realize that it’s happening or that, in the process, we’re undermining our own happiness. Procrastinators tend to be far more stressed than those who don’t have this habit; they get sick more often, too. If you can suck it up and act, however, you’ll find your day-to-day a lot more pleasant and rewarding: Your mind will be released from all that ruminating and second-guessing, paving the way for other opportunities. After all, life is richest when filled with milestones and accomplishments — not with regrets of what you should’ve and would’ve done, if only.

So why would a woman push off a marriage or baby she really wants? Why would someone stay in a job she no longer likes? It’s not that they’re lazy or overly laid-back. Life procrastinators may dread failure. They may have a fear of success, an urge to be defiant, a perfectionist streak or a need to take risks — all of which can get in the way when trying to make a decision. Take my diagnostic quiz to see if you are a life procrastinator, then keep reading to discover what’s driving your indecision and find real-world solutions that will finally set you free.

‘I Don’t Want To Fail’
If you’re so afraid of being bad (or, worse, just OK) at something that you’d rather not try it at all, here’s a news flash: You’re a perfectionist. Perhaps you hardly ever work out because you’d feel terrible if you killed yourself at the gym but couldn’t lose the last 10 pounds or hone that six-pack. Carrying this to the extreme, you may also believe that you are only lovable and worthwhile if your performance at everything is nothing less than outstanding.

Try this: The next time you’re hemming and hawing over something you could crash and burn at, take a page from Sheryl Sandberg and tell yourself, Done is better than perfect. Chances are, no one will notice if the results aren’t up to your exacting standards; they’ll just be impressed that you got results, period.

‘I’m Afraid Of Being Successful’
On the flip side, some of us become paralyzed by imagining that if we excel, we will be expected to keep performing at that level. Or we freak out that the achievement would change our lives in unpredictable and uncontrollable ways. Concerns you may have: If I ask for that promotion and get it, who’s going to help out with the kids if I have to put in more hours at the office? Are my work friends going to stop inviting me to lunch?

Try this: Accept uncertainty. The reality is that any choice you make (even if you decide to keep things status quo) will have upsides and downsides. Imagining the potential negatives (My friend at work will be so jealous) and telling yourself that it will work out (She’ll deal, or else I’ll find a new confidant) can help you stop obsessing and start doing. Worried that you’ll be less available for your loved ones? That’s a classic fear of success. Keep in mind that if and when you accept a new position or job, you can set boundaries at the outset. Thing is, you can’t do that unless you apply first.

‘I Don’t Want To Be Told What To Do’
You aim — fine, you need — to be in charge. You probably grew up with an authoritarian parent who was very controlling. Unfortunately, now you’re asserting yourself by delaying things that must be addressed, like making basic updates to your circa-1950s kitchen. Your story is: “Hey! No one can order me around!” — even though no one really is — “I’ll do it on my terms!” Which may be never.

Try this: When you find yourself resisting a change, ask yourself how you’re really feeling at heart. Indecision often masks anxiety, sadness or anger. Perhaps your parents were always fighting about money, so even though you have the cash to renovate, you feel stressed-out about spending it. Figuring out which emotion is stopping you from acting can make a decision clearer because it becomes more obvious that the conflict over taking action is coming from you. In other words, you are fighting only yourself.

‘I Get A Rush Out Of Doing Things Last-Minute’
Some put-offers aren’t anxious at all: They thrive on the excitement of scrambling to hit deadlines, often because they find the daily grind boring—and boredom terrifying. A thrill seeker who wants to go on some fantasy vacation, such as a boat cruise in the Galapagos, may delay purchasing tickets but keep checking to see how many spots are left until, finally, she is forced to commit because the trip is almost booked.

Try this: If you’re always telling yourself that you’re at your best when under pressure, prove it (in a small, innocuous way). Do a task — like tossing in a load of laundry or completing your expenses at work — at the last minute, as usual. Then one day perform that same chore ahead of schedule. You’ll most likely notice that your overall routine seems a little saner and that you have more free time on your hands when you knock stuff off early. Even better: You’ll have a full underwear drawer — and a cool trip to look forward to.

3 Everyday Ways To Just Do It
Quick tips that will help you tackle those little things you put off, courtesy of John Perry, Ph.D., author of The Art of Procrastination.

Nag yourself.
It’s hard to ignore in-your-face reminders. Put Post-its on the fridge at night with a list of errands for the next day. Program your computer to send alerts, or try a task-manager app like Any.do. Place the bag of clothes to return to the store right by the door so you have to take it with you.

Think of an ominous task.
Maybe it’s changing the oil in your car or cleaning out the attic. Soon you’ll find yourself doing what you really need to do because it’s better than the dreaded chore. It’s all relative: Some activities may be mundane, but they’re not nearly as bad as an oil change.

Make tinier to-dos.
For instance, instead of writing, Send thank-you cards, jot down, 1. Find thank-you cards. 2. Write them out. 3. Address envelopes. Why it works: The thrill of checking off all those little tasks makes you feel so successful that you’re revved to keep on going. Mission, accomplished.


In Huffington Post’s article “7 Ways To Stop Procrastinating” Ms. Saltz with Health.com gives advice on how to stop procrastinating. We all do it. We put off our worst tasks and move around our to-do lists to avoid things that we just don’t want to do.
 
Some things are just too unpleasant that we want to hide it at the bottom of our lists and hope that it will just disappear. In divorce, there is so much to do, stacks of forms to fill out and an unbelievable amount of paperwork to read through. It’s easy to get lost and want to toss it all in a corner and forget about it.
 
Especially with legal paperwork, you do not ever want to procrastinate. You want to make sure you fill your forms on time and file it with the appropriate parties. You don’t want to end up with penalties and fees you could have avoided by filing your responses on time. If you feel as though the stacks are overwhelming and need help reading all the legal jargon, we are here to help. Call our office now for a complimentary consultation and we will assist you with your case.
 
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Are We There Yet? Making Summer Plans When You Are Divorced or Soon To Be. By: Law Office of Steven B. Chroman P.C. Santa Clarita Divorce

Monday, April 28th, 2014

With summer vacation right around the corner, thoughts on how to keep kids busy, entertained, structured, happy, and distracted from the throes of your divorce are probably beginning.

Kids who are home from school have a lot of available time that needs to be scheduled. Some will benefit from going away to camp or to their grandparents, while others will benefit from more one-on-one time with parents because they may find the isolation from divorce as alienating. A good place to start is by asking your older kids (12 and up) how they want to spend their summer before any final decisions are made.

If your divorce is final, you are required to abide by your final divorce decree regarding summer visitation. If you do not yet have a final divorce decree, I highly recommend that you begin discussing with your ex-spouse a summer schedule for the children.

There are several reasons for coming to a summer visitation arrangement sooner rather than later:

(1)  You can make travel plans, if necessary;

(2)  You can make arrangements for taking time off work or arrange child care/camp during the time you have the children; and

(3)  You can ensure that both parents will have some extended free time with the children over the summer.

There is no shortage of tensions that can easily explode if unaddressed. In order to facilitate a peaceful summer, divorced parents will need to cooperate with each other.

-Plan a budget for your child(ren’s) summer activities.

-Plan for your child’s summer job- pick up, drop off and/or car situation.

-Plan for how much time you will be with your child(ren).

You and your ex-spouse (or soon to be) or the court may agree to modify child support payments in different amounts during vacation periods when the child is with the noncustodial parent more than during the regular school year or use that money towards activities, camp, travel, etc.

Plan for your child’s camp or summer school:

If you are paying for child support, will you continue to pay the same amount of child support or can you agree to pay for other children expenses in lieu of child support?

Make arrangements regarding who will drop off and pick up your child(ren).

Plan for your child(ren) staying at home in the summer:

Will your child-related costs increase? For example, will you have greater expenses for babysitting, food, entertainment, driving, etc? How will these increased costs be shared, if at all, with your ex-spouse?


The Law Offices of Steven B. Chroman, P.C., are committed to helping you understand your options and make the best choices for yourself. Call our offices at 661-255-1800 for your FREE consultation today!

Huffington Post Article: Smartphones: We Created You and We Can Destroy You

Thursday, April 3rd, 2014


Smartphones: We Created You and We Can Destroy You
By: Jeff Steinmann for Huffington Post

We are at a crossroads with smartphones. We have to make an important decision. We have to decide if we’re going to let them control us or if we are going to grab them by the arm, swat them on the butt, and say, “Now listen, you’re getting too big for your britches. You are living in my pocket and I’m paying your monthly service fees, so you’re going to follow my rules. And if you don’t, you’re going to bed without a charge.”

Just like kids, smartphones need boundaries. Here are five boundaries you must put in place if you want to take back control of your smartphone.

1) Don’t let them interrupt:
“Mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, watch me!” your smartphone says as it beeps and buzzes with text after tweet after Facebook notification.

“Honey, just a minute. The grown-ups are talking,” you say to your phone. Would you let your 4-year-old interrupt a conversation? Of course not! You’re not raising a rude child. Don’t let the silicon screamer interrupt a conversation either. Commit to finishing a conversation before checking the text. It can wait.

2) Only let them speak when spoken to:
My grandpa used to say, “When I was a kid, you only spoke when spoken to.” That applies to smartphones, too. Put it on silent — all the time. What about emergencies? This is where it gets really cool. Kids aren’t allowed to call you at work any time they have a silly question or just want to say hi. They have rules they must follow. Your phone needs rules, too. There are lots of ways to silence your phone except for certain numbers like the day care, your job, spouse, elderly parents or kids. Here is how to do it for the iPhone and for Android.

3) Get a sitter:
Sometimes you need to have some mommy-and-daddy (or mommy-and-mommy, or daddy-and-daddy) time. Before cell phones, when you went out to eat at a restaurant, you would leave the number of the restaurant with anyone who might need to get ahold of you in an emergency. That still works today. Leave your phone at home for at least one social event per week. Smartphones are okay to stay home by themselves, as long as they understand not to open the door for strangers.

4) Give them a bedtime:
It is important that kids get adequate sleep, but another benefit of kids going to bed early is that it gives the grown-ups some time to themselves. Smartphones need a bedtime, too. Put them to bed (outside of the bedroom, in case you want to have sex) at a reasonable hour. Then they will be all charged up (pun intended… carefully planned, actually) and ready for a new day tomorrow.

5) Make them run errands:
“Go give the mail to mommy,” you might say to a child. Kids love passing along messages or running small errands. Smartphones are great for that, too. Set up your phone so that you can send emails but can’t receive them (here’s how). This is wonderful. If you think of something you need to tell someone or something you can’t forget to do, just send an email or send yourself a reminder. That’s it. You’re done. No need to deal with the incoming email until it’s time to do so. Email sent and you’re back to living your life.

Technology wasn’t invented for technology’s sake. It was invented to make your life easier. It’s supposed to help you spend more time living your life and less time sustaining it. Use it that way. Time is all you have. Use technology as a tool to enjoy more of your time instead of an obligation that takes you away from living your life.
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Huffington Post’s article “Smartphones: We Created You and We Can Destroy You” gives some fundamental advice on how to maintain boundaries with your smartphone!  We’ve become attached to the idea that without our smartphone we might miss out on something important, but essentially we are doing exactly what we don’t want to do, we’re missing out.

Staying attached to your smartphone and constantly looking down is not only time consuming, it takes you away from real life moments happening as you sit on your phone.  Remembering to silent your phones or turning them off is invaluable to any relationship you are in, whether it’s with your spouse, children, family or friends.

Don’t miss out on your baby’s first steps or when your spouse is trying to connect with you or when someone you love is looking for the right words to express something on their mind.  Using social media to stay involve can be a great tool unless you are becoming detached in your relationships.

Learn how to manage your time with your smartphone and keep firm boundaries.  Don’t live in a state of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), live healthy and be present.

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Huffington Post Article: 14 Habits Of Ultra-Organized People

Friday, March 21st, 2014

14 Habits Of Ultra-Organized People
By: Sarah Klein at Huffington Post

They’re the people who just love to check things off a list. Their idea of heaven is The Container Store. And they sure know their way around a spreadsheet. They’re the ultra-organized, and to those who prefer things a little less tidy, their ways are mysterious.

But they’re also onto something. More than 80 percent of people polled in a 2010 survey said being organized improved their work performance.  Being organized may lead to feeling more in control and having more mental energy. Not to mention, who really needs the stress of misplacing the car keys one more time?

The good news is that anyone can be (or at least become) an organized person. “There really is no organizing ‘gene,'” says Annette Reyman, president of the greater Philadelphia chapter of the National Association of Professional Organizers and CEO of All Right Organizing and All Right Moves, professional organizing and unpacking companies, respectfully. “With some people it comes more naturally, [but] it absolutely can be learned.”

While of course, every individual, organized or not, will act differently in different situations, there are some patterns among the highly organized. Here are 14 common habits.

Organized people are goal-oriented.

Most organized people aren’t keeping everything in order just for their own amusement — they’re doing it for a reason, says Reyman. Maybe your organized neighbors love to host guests at their home, she says. They’re going to set things up around their house that make it an easy and comfortable environment for new people — and they’ll work to keep it that way. “They can easily let go of things that are not connected to those goals,” she says, “whether that be stuff or time commitments.”

They’re optimistic.
Reyman says she’s observed that organized people tend to be more positive, at least anecdotally. “They have a can-do attitude,” she says, “even if they’re moving forward an inch and not a foot at a time.” Frequently, she explains, disorganized people will decide to consult a professional organizer after something has occurred in their lives that inspires them to be more positive. They reach out for help, saying, “I’m ready to go forward,” she says.

They’re conscientious.
In what’s known as the Five-Factor Model, personality is evaluated along five major spectrums, one of which is conscientiousness, says David W. Ballard, PsyD, MBA, the assistant executive director for the American Psychological Association’s Center for Organizational Excellence.  A person who scores high in conscientiousness is likely to be efficient, achievement-oriented and self-disciplined, and to show a preference for planned activities over spontaneous ones, he says. While you’re not necessarily one or the other — this is a spectrum, remember — organized people tend to score higher in this trait.

They may not always be open to new ideas.

“While we tend to think that being organized and tidy is a good thing — and it certainly helps people be productive and efficient — there’s also a downside, potentially,” says Ballard. A 2013 study suggested that working in a messier office environment sparks more creative ideas than working in a more orderly space. “Sometimes there’s an upside to being in a little more chaotic environment,” he says. “You don’t want total chaos, but you also don’t want to restrict your thinking.”

They’re decision makers.
“In general, organized people can say, ‘This is good enough,’ and then move forward,” says Reyman. “It doesn’t have to be perfect, and we don’t have to rehash it 10,000 different ways.” Organized people consider their options, choose one and stick to it, without looking back with regret on the paths not taken, she says.

The decision-making process hinges on an organized person’s ability to prioritize, keeping their big-picture goals in mind, says Ballard. Organized people decide what is most important to do immediately, and what is still important but doesn’t need to interrupt their flow.

They let go of perfectionism.
It follows then, that not everything has to be perfect: Sometimes good enough is good enough. In fact, many perfectionists are actually incredibly disorganized, says Reyman. “They concentrate on all the fine details and end up becoming immobilized by [them],” she says.

The final 20 percent in a push to make something perfect “takes a disproportionate amount of time and energy and resources and may not produce the equivalent value,” says Ballard. “Being good but not necessarily having to be perfect is a balance that varies person to person.”

They capture, calendar and contain.

Reyman came up with this alliterative list to sum up the list-making tendencies of organized people. “Organized people capture everything,” she says, from events to ideas to requests from others, and it’s usually done in a list. If it’s a recurring event or something with a certain deadline, they are likely to do their capturing on a calendar. And they arm themselves with the appropriate physical containers to make physical items easy to capture, she says. “[Organized people] won’t throw a bunch of something into one big empty basket,” she says. “It’s going to be a system where, when you have to go back to it, it’s easily accessible.”

They check in with their lists.
Organized people “are really in touch with their commitments,” says Reyman. And there’s big payoff: “We spend a lot of mental energy trying to keep track of all the things we need to remember,” Ballard says. Putting them on paper frees up some of that mental energy, he says, so much so that people who have trouble sleeping may get better rest simply by writing down those to-dos. Just don’t let the list itself stress you out, he says. Keep it to a few manageable tasks for each day and one longer-term project you’ll work toward so it doesn’t overwhelm you.

They have a do-it-now attitude.
When an organized person walks in the door after work, she hangs her coat up immediately rather than throwing it on the back of a chair, says Reyman. “They know there would be five coats on the chair later, and they might say they’re too lazy to do that work later, while disorganized people might say they’re too lazy to do the work now.” If a task takes fewer than five minutes, an organized person is likely to just get it out of the way, she says.

But that doesn’t mean they don’t put things off until later, she says, their procrastination just happens in a slightly less time-wasting fashion. “Sometimes something will move from this week’s list to next week’s list, but it doesn’t stay on there for long,” says Reyman. “[Organized people] like to check things off.”

They prepare.

Organized people like to be ready for anything. It doesn’t mean they’ve necessarily finished that work presentation three weeks before it’s due, says Reyman. “It’s just knowing how much time they have and leaving enough time to do it,” she says. Every individual will have his or her own style of meeting deadlines, she says, but organized people are likely to leave a cushion big enough that if something else were to come up they wouldn’t be totally thrown off.

They ask for help.
Organized people know their strengths and weaknesses, and they delegate accordingly. “They know they don’t have to do it all themselves,” Reyman says, and they avoid additional stress by reaching out when they need support. This reflects a high sense of self-worth among organized people: “They realize that their time is worth more than trying to figure out every little thing,” she says, and if they use others’ strengths to make something run more efficiently, everyone ends up with more time. “Thinking about your time as a resource that has value will help you decide how to effectively allocate across all the other things that you’re doing,” says Ballard. Perfectionists and high-achievers may not be comfortable letting anyone else share the reins, but interpersonal support goes a long way in managing stress and staying on top of goals, he says.

They unitask.
“People who think they’re really productive like to think that they’re great multi-taskers,” says Ballard. “But in reality, even those who think they’re good at it are not.” Multi-tasking essentially spreads your attention too thin, and all the different tasks you’re juggling get less and lower-quality love as a consequence. “The more efficient, effective and organized people do it as little as possible,” he says. They give one task their ultimate attention, turning off email pop-ups and other disruptive notifications to “protect their time,” he says, whether it’s in the office or with family or just quiet time alone.

They know when they do their best work.

You’ve probably known at least one ultra-organized person who you’d say was extraordinarily well-versed in the skills of time management. But Ballard says there should be a greater appreciation of energy management. Organized people know to do particular tasks at specific points throughout the day that are best-suited to the energy level needed for the task. For example, he says, if a project requires your clearest thinking and most creative ideas, you wouldn’t save that for the middle of your afternoon slump. Organized people are keenly aware of “where their head is throughout the day,” he says. An organized person will charge through a challenging to-do list item at the natural high-energy point in his or her day. “Don’t try to accomplish critical tasks at that time of a lull,” Ballard says.

They de-stress.
Organized people know how to let it all go, says Ballard. “Most of us are operating in a state of chronic stress; we’re always on.” But the same people who are “able to really stay focused and stay organized do things to manage their stress effectively,” he says. It doesn’t matter if it’s yoga, meditation, mindfulness, exercise or even seeing a mental health professional; the important part is “getting that support to help manage the stress they’re facing… so that it doesn’t detract from their performance and health,” he says.

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Huffington Post’s article “14 Habits Of Ultra-Organized People” lists some key points on how organized people stay organized.  Whether you are already organized or looking to become more organized, this is a good read to remind ourselves how to retain or regain control in our chaotic lives.  

If you are feeling out of control and would like to receive guidance on how to better manage you impending divorce or custody case, please contact our office.  We are here to help you manage your circumstances and maintain an organized lifestyle.

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